When we think about grieving we usually think about death, experiencing the loss of a loved one can be an incredibly challenging loss, and it is not the only aspect to consider. After they transition, we may be surprised at the emotions that come up and wonder how to navigate our ongoing life situations while our bodies, minds and spirits aim to adjust to the impact of such a blow. While we struggle to attend to all that surrounds us daily, with this new reality, our personal process is inherently unique and sacred. It may not be acknowledged right away but the secondary losses can be sharp reminders of what has changed. For example, perhaps our loved one was someone we went to for support, or they handled different aspects of our lives over the years, they managed the “social network” that kept us in touch with friends. They may have been the “breadwinner”, that provided a level of financial security for us, or the family “communicator” that seemed to hold us all together. Secondary losses can span widely, in the form of changes to relationships, attending schools, our own feelings of self worth, and even take toll on our faith. Going through this process takes time and care, staying connected and making space to express what is going on can make the world of difference in our healing. Be gentle…